Like many lesbians, Maddy is an ordinary girl who only fell in love for the first time when she was in college and has always struggled with the poverty line.

When she fell out of love for the first time, she was devastated when her ex was soon out on campus with a new girlfriend, and Maddy spent her days tossing and turning in her single bed in the dormitory.

She even went to the department chair and tried to take a leave of absence. She was told that if she took a break, she wouldn't get any financial aid, and she was discouraged from doing so.

Until writing this book, Maddy remained poor. She was in school for a gender-related graduate program, couldn't afford rent, writing papers that no one read, and was lonely.

Although she had thousands of followers on social media, every day when she opened her private messages, there were countless private messages telling her her problems, such as "What should I do if my ex-girlfriend's ex-girlfriend is my current girlfriend". She had an idea, why not make a magazine out of these worries? The printer at school didn't cost anything anyway. So she finished the magazine in no time at all, and to her surprise, the response was so good that the magazine soon became a book.

In the book, Maddy, a veteran lesbian, shares her lesbian experience, the first chapter of which is called "First Love":

"When you fall in love for the first time, everything is "most". "most". Your love is the deepest, your sex is the best, and no relationship can compare. I'm not trying to preach here like an old T who's lived a hundred years, I'm just trying to say to those of you who are hurting because your first love failed, it will pass. You will be free again. You'll love again, date again, and you'll be a wiser, more grounded partner after you've already been through it all"

Maddy responded to a lot of representative questions. For example, one girl said she was 23 but had never held a girl's hand. Because her body shape doesn't fit the mainstream aesthetics.

Maddy answered seriously, "In this society, being "sexually inexperienced" seems to be a big deal. There are even movies that portray it as an embarrassing, shameful state that must be avoided at all costs. But in reality, sexuality doesn't change who you are as a person. It neither permanently damages or alters your body, nor does it open a magical path to wisdom"

"Fat cool kids date, fall in love, and have beautiful, dreamy relationships that happen all the time . There is the same obesity discrimination in the cooler community as there is elsewhere, but there are also many wonderful people in the cooler scene who are committed to body diversity. Please don't be discouraged or intimidated from putting yourself out into the world"

Another girl wrote in to say that she had a reaction to the sight of a girl's body, and that she condemned herself for it, feeling that she was "replicating" the male gaze

Maddy replied, "Simply reacting to the sight of a girl's body is not the same as harassing them. It's not the same as harassing them. If you express interest in that woman and she says, 'Thanks, but I don't want to,' I don't think you're going to pursue her or make her uncomfortable. You wouldn't whistle at her or follow her home, you wouldn't send her harassing messages. You would respect her wishes. In fact, if you're worried about being treated like a pervert, odds are you're not "

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